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Saturday, June 19, 2010

One Final Miracle

Early in May, our family learned that a lifelong friend of my Dad’s passed away. His name was Lionel “Mac” McCaffrey and they had been friends since they met while both serving in the military. I recall hearing stories of Mac's infamous St. Patrick's day parties, which my Dad attended annually during the years they lived in the same city. Mac and my dad kept in touch over the years and shared the occassional visit. Mac was in my dad’s thoughts frequently over the past year as Mac often sent interesting emails - links to funny jokes, websites, youtube videos, etc.

When we found out that Mac passed away on May 1, we decided not to tell Dad. He was in the advanced stages of cancer and we felt that this news would be devastating and might dampen his already fragile spirits. As well, my family and I were all diligent about watching for “signs” that can be given by those nearing the end of life. These signs, or final gifts, can be spoken in dreams or while the person with the illness is in a state of delirium or altered conciousness. We felt that if Dad described seeing Mac, this could be an indication that his journey was nearing the end.

However, Dad never described seeing his friend. He asked about him when talking with mutual friends, but those involved were instructed to politely avoid telling the truth about Mac’s passing.

Then the miracle occurred.

After my dad passed away on May 27th, I called the funeral home to arrange transport to pick him up from my parent’s home... When the van eventually arrived, my sister glanced out the window toward the driveway. Her voice was shaking when she spoke “Oh my God! You have to come and see this!” We joined her at the window and we all looked out toward the ominous black van. Then she said “Look at the license plate”.

The letters on the plate read: M-A-C.

I suppose this could be considered a co-incidence. One can mathematically calculate that the possibility of this combination of letters occurring by chance is one in 17,576 (or 0.0057%). But this co-incidence gives my mom, my family, and Mac’s wife a profound sense of comfort. Not only do we know that they are together, but we feel that they wanted to let us know that they are safe in each other’s company.